Thursday, December 30, 2010

wrap, novel, or blog

I have a quiet moment right now.  I should be writing my novel, or working on my other writing project.  I also need to wrap my Christmas gifts, but I realized I ran out of scheduled post so I need to do this too.

While I'm at it I also have laundry that needs to get done, I wanted to walk on the treadmill, but I'm not doing any of that either.

I usually get my wrapping done at night when the kids are in bed, but now that Rascal is around I seriously don't think he is going to let me wrap on the floor and watch TV like I usually do.  All I can picture is him walking all over my wrapping paper and gifts.  It really is a funny sight when I think about it, but not one I want to go through.  Which is one of the reason why I haven't finished my wrapping. 

So instead I should write, but I can't concentrate at night, I write better in the morning or afternoon. So here I am talking to you. Tell me what do you do to procrastinate?

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Birthday Parties

Here's one for you to think about.  How many times can you plan your child's birthday party year after year and not run out of different things to do?  That is my quandary right now as my son turns another year older this winter.

In years past (I'm aging myself here) when you had a birthday party you invited five to eight friends over and basically had a big play date, had cake and ice cream, opened presents and they went home, or if you were lucky and old enough you had  a sleep over.

In today's day and age though everything is planned out to the point where you have to have a budget for a simple child's birthday party. Oh that's right, birthday parties aren't simple anymore.  No today you have to hire Bozo the Clown (Does anyone even remember Bozo?), or some traveling reptile show, or creepy crawler animals show. Oh the list goes on and on.  Don't get me wrong, I think those parties are a blast too, and I'm the parent, but they are also a lot of work.

Still I was so happy the few times my kids said they actually want to have their party at home.  Nothing special, just play with their friends and have cake.  (I think I did something right) because this year that is exactly what my son asked for.  He wants his party at home with just a few friends.  I'm so proud of his simplicity.

As parents we are so busy trying to give our kids the best party ever, we forget that sometimes, the best party is just being with your friends.

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Experimenting with Genre

I wonder how many people start off writing believing that they are going to write in a specific genre.  They study that category, browse through the book store isles to see what type of books are selling and type away at their novel believing it to be the next great thing. 

And then something happens.  Your novel that you spent so much time and dedication writing and slaving over goes no where.  Not one agent likes it.  Oh you get promising rejection letters like send me something else, but you know that a no is a no, no matter how nice it sounds.  No it is time to re-evaluate your pride and joy.  Do you give up on that work of art?  Or keep pluging away at it? 

Some people close the chapter on that novel for a while and start another.  I did.  I started another, and another, and I have to be honest none of them felt like the first.  Something wasn't right.  I wanted them to be.  The last one I started felt right when I started and I still think there is a story to tell, but for some reason my belief in the story dwindled.  I will go back to it and fix it, but not now. Now I need to experiment with my writing.  I need to see what styles of writing feels good, what is easy, hard and fun. 

I'm in the process of doing that now.  I did finally finish another story line, infact I have already finished two and I have two more that I have in mind.  I'm not telling what style of writing it is or what genre.  That's a secret. 

What inspires you to write the genre that you do? Why did you chose it?  Experiment with other genre's and see where your strength lies. 

Monday, December 13, 2010

The Pact- And Teen Suicide

I am not one to normally read a book and give someone my review on it.  I personally find books to be subjective to a persons taste.  Many times people have told me that I have to absolutely read such and such a book. Then I'll either borrow it or buy the book and start to read it only to find I can't get through it.  Why?  It just wasn't for me.  Not that the book is bad, it's just not my style.  It happens.  Let me read the back cover and decide for myself if I think I'm going to like it.  That is why I don't review books. 

That said, I'm making an exception here.  I have recently picked up the book The Pact by Joyce Picoult.  I have seen her books before in Barnes & Noble and I knew I would like her writing, but there was always another book I wanted to read as well.  This time I finally picked one up, it was not an easy decision. I wanted to read them all.  I finally decided to pick The Pact.  Having small kids part of me knew this might be a hard book to get through emotionally, but I becided to give it a shot anyway.  I'm so glad that I did.

The book is wonderfully written.  I love how Joyce has dedicated a scene or chapter to specific characters so the reader can see the story through their eyes. I won't say to much about the book itself in fear of giving away to much of the story, but I will say: it is a book that parents should read, and teenagers as well.  It is heart warming and heart wrentching as well.

In the face of a world today where bullying and teen suicide is on the rise because of all the added pressure put on kids, it is extermenly important that we as parent's take notice of our children's behavior and talk to them, or at least set the atmosphere where they feel comfortable coming to talk to you.  The world is changing and a lot of pressure is put on kids today. Some of the pressure is old news, (getting good grads, making the team, getting into college. Some are new, being perfect, money, cars, boyfriends, girlfriends  the list go on).  The reason doesn't matter, what matter's is the pressure is there, and we need to let these kids know that they are not alone, and it will get better.  As the holidays approach we all need to remember that the holidays can also be a hard time for young kids and teens who have lost loved ones as well, so we need to keep that in mind as well.

How do you keep the conversation flowing?

Thursday, December 9, 2010

What Happened to Family Events?

Most of you who frequent my blog know that I am NOT a complainer.  I try to see the positive side, at least for the purpose of this blog, but there are some things that just rub me the wrong way.  Please understand this is only my opinion, and it is my blog so technically I can rant if I want to, and I want too.

I have been trying to understand over the course of the past few years what has happened to the family unit.  When I was little understandably many families lived closer together and they leaned on each other for day to day things more then they do today.  So when there was an event, say a wedding, or a birthday party, the WHOLE family was invited to attended, not just the parents.

I'd love to bring my kids with me to these functions. It is important for them to experience these family get togethers. They are just as important as holiday get togethers!  My parents and my friend's parents always brought us.  Yes, there were times when we needed to have a babysitter, but not so often.  These days children are not invited to weddings especially because of the cost.  Hello people this is a family event!  You committed yourself to one person for the rest of your life and made a family.  Okay there are only two of you now, but it probably won't stay that way. Maybe I'm the only one who see things this way.

Today with the economy what it is and families not living close to each other you would think that this unity would be foremost and important in every one's mind.  I can't tell you how many times I have spoken to parents who have a hard time finding babysitters for their young kids because they can't find teenagers who babysit anymore.  Teenagers today are getting "real" jobs, or don't want to babysit anymore.  Why I don't know because it's the easiest money you can make.  How hard is it to sit around and read a book or watch TV for a few hours while the kids sleep and go home with 40-50 bucks in your hand?  I just don't get it.
But today teens don't want to babysit and family members are attending the same function you are so they can't babysit either.  Not to mention many of us can't afford the 40-50 bucks you are spending on the babysitter in the first place.

Maybe I'm just old fashioned. Tell me what you think. Please give me a clue, because I have a hard time believing I'm alone on this one.  What is your opinion?    I'll be hunting for my babysitters phone number I lost. And yes, I did find another one. Thank you Day Care Center!

Saturday, December 4, 2010

Christmas Cards

It's time for Christmas cards!  It's the time of year when people are actually happy to get mail.  We run to our mail boxes and are excited to get all of the beautiful assortments of cards from loved ones flooding our mail box.

I have to admit though, at over the years my Christmas card list has grown to the point where it is getting out of hand and I have been forced to go over the list to make sure all the necessary people make the list. That always leave a dangerous question though, who makes the list and who doesn't? This is a delicate subject.  First and foremost for me is making sure immediate family gets a card (this includes parents and siblings) then grandparents and great grandparents form the very top of the list.  After that all of the great aunts and uncles are next.  Then my cousins (both sides of the family), then friends.  Before you know it you have at least 50-60 people on this list.  At one point I have over 50 people.  After that year I've tried to cut  it down to 50.  I can't seem to go lower than that, and I fight to keep it there year after year.

 I used to go to the studio and have them professionally done but our schedule has gotten so busy over the years that it had gotten to hard to fit in.  Instead I have hunted through pictures of our own and used on line services to have the cards made up.  Technology at it finest.  These days I try to remember ahead of time.  Like this year I took a picture while we were apple picking and used that.  In years past I've used pictures I've taken while picking out our Christmas tree, or previous Christmas's or family outings at the pond. There is something about it that makes the day a little more special, just knowing that I get to share a small moment of my day with my friends and family.

Everyone has there own way of sending out cards.  Which way works for you?  Studio, or picking one of your own like me?  Do you send pictures or just the card themselves? Share with me while I put on the stamps.

Thursday, December 2, 2010

Sharing my Award

                                                  Morning World!  Today is a happy day. 

I did have a different post planned for today, but it is going to have to wait, because today is Award Day!

Yesterday Carol Riggs over at Artzicarol Ramblings awarded me The Versatile Blogger award.  See hard work does pay off!  Please click the link to check out her site I want to publicly thank Carol for the recognition.

As the rules go as far as I understand I will now reveal 7 things about myself and pass on the award to 7 other deserving bloggers

Seven of my favorite Random things:
Ice Cream:  Chocolate (always has always will be)
Color:  Green and Yellow (depending on my mood)
Car:  I love my Saturn and I'm very sad to see them go
Magical Creatures:  Honestly, not really sure, I never put much thought into this one, but please feel free to give my your ideas, I might borrow one of yours
Music:  That's easy-Piano.  (I love listening to the piano in Billy Joel songs or Elton John). Okay that gave away a lot about me right there.
Perfumes: Nantucket by Crabtree & Evenly
Candy:  Peppermint Patty.

Okay now for a list of worthy bloggers: 

Amber Skyze at

Shellie at

Suzi McGowen at

Jolene Perry at

Tracy at

Tory M at

Roni Loren at

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